September 01, 2010

Advice Please...

Ok... So this is a sensitive post, but I need help on what to do.  I keep wracking my brain with several possibilities and just don't know what is best for the time being.  

In just a short time we are going to be attending a funeral of someone in our family.  I am at lost as to how to approach this with Aubrey.  I don't know if it would be ok to take her to the funeral and let her see the person "sleeping", (I can totally see her asking when is she going to wake up while we are there and then for hours after... that is just her personality), or if it would be better to not even bring her and not make it (death) a part of her life yet.  She knows who this person is when we see them, but does not ask for them by name when we aren't around.  The idea is kind of "out of sight, out of mind." 

A little more on Aubrey... we have had things die in our home... they were fish and she saw them go down the toilet to "a better place which we call heaven."   So it is not a total foreign subject to her.  But I don't think a fish and a person are on the same level, especially since it is someone in our family.

So any imput would be appreciated.  I would like to have a plan of acction on how to handle it before the time comes.  Thanks in advance.